I got it from my mama

My mom is not only a caregiver but also my strength. She has taken me through all the ups and downs, the betrayal of a friend; a broken heart; guilt stricken actions; stupid decisions; indecisiveness; love; happiness and anxiety. I though I should share with you some of her amazing words:-

1. Don't be shy about your God given talents, he gave them to you because he knew that you could handle them.

2. Be powerful, women have gone a long way to fight for your right to not be discriminated, don't let them down by unnecessarily succumbing to anyone least of all men.

3. Use what you have to get what you want without compromising your values and beliefs, it's an art, used skillfully it could change your world for the better.

4. It's okay to enjoy sex and doughnuts don't shield yourself from the pleasures of life every now and then but know when to stop. Everything in moderation.

5. Money IS power; power to sleep peacefully at night in warm blankets, power to choose what you want to eat and where to eat it at. So don't be shy to find a hard working man that has potential to also provide this in a relationship because love needs money.

6. Flatter him ofcourse, love him too but dont you ever love him more than you love yourself, how do you expect him to love you when you dont love yourself emough, as long as YOU always come first to YOU everything will fall in place.

7. Don't be afraid of the road less travelled, it could open a pathway to a greater life full of endless opportunities.

8. He broke your heart, so what? Move on, because with him or without him God will still ensure your heart beats, no amount of crying will make it stop, eventually the pain comes to pass

9. If you get so upset about what you have heard them say about you, imagine how you will be about the things they say behind your back, the stuff you don't get to hear. No one owes you love and appreciation learn to create your own and dont depend on anyone for fulfillment and relevance.

10. He knew you before I ever did, He has taken you through what you perceived to be your worst moments yet not once, has he let you down. Why mistrust the Lord now?

11. I am only your mom, I can only do and say so much. I taught you the Lord's prayer, you need to learn to have faith to believe in getting down on your knees, I can't teach you that.

12. Every month just before you pay your debts spend a little on yourself without guilt its called self indulgence. If you feel guilty,it means that you spent too much on you, that is called selfishness.

13. You are beautiful as you are, God made no mistakes.

14. Love your body, it is really the temple of God and it will still be your one and only body and remain with you for years as a reminder of bruises and scars neglect with no one around to take the blame but you.

15. You only have one family, don't go around trying to create sisters out of your girl friends, unfortunately they WILL eventually hurt or betray you, in one way or the other. It's natural.

16. Even when you get married, you have one family, family by marriage cannot take over your family by birth. Men sometimes do not understand this, you need to always remember this not only for your self but for the sake of him and his family too. Constantly remind him to make time with his family

17. You will never Really along with your mother in law, no mom really likes their daughter in law to the extent that they choose them over their son. One day when Neo gets married you will see that.

18. There is someone there for everyone, we are not meant to live our lives solo

19.If by chance your HDI Status lends you a job too big for your small shoes to fill perfectly, take it in your stride don't be ashamed, it's what God planned out for you however protect it by working your butt off, until you feel worthy not by your HDI status but by credentials.

20. That job does not mean you can be bitchy to everyone, people expect women in power to be just that. Stay grounded and when they hurt you, kill them with kindness and remember what I've told you before (see number 10)

From your lips Mommy! You see I actually listen. I thank you for the many roles you play in my life. I await to see me being that to my own daughter. I hear your prayers; I feel your presence in my life ; I see your love. What an uncomplicated relationship!

I have started gym again, sore as ever! I will update you on my weight status soon enough. Nothings changed. Please let your mom know how special she is. And remember that a mother does not have to be a biological one. I know I will always remember my moms words of wisdom so that I can share it with Nkhensi. And when she asks me how I got so wise, I'll say I got it from my mama and she got it from her mama too.





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