I am a cheater too

Today I ran for 30 minutes but yesterday my body said NO. From the time I woke up until late in the evening I could not get myself to step on that treadmill, it looked too familiar; unattractive; it seemed old and undesirable even though its not. I started to do simple tummy exercises and convinced myself I was working out great. I cheated. We all have cheated, not only at the gym but in our tests or exams; while playing fun games with friends and siblings. We cheat on the ones we love in our intimate relationships, when the one we love seems unattractive, old and undesirable to our sight. Cheating in an intimate relationship is more taxing though because too many emotions are involved; it gets worse in a marriage because too many people are involved (both sides of the family and ofcourse your girlfriends or your boys) and its no longer about the two of you. You realise you were not entirely on the same understanding of what it means to say "for better and for worse" which at the time you said so bodly during your wedding vows. Those words seem so easy and achievable until they are tested, until you are cheated on. Your girlfriends or boys start to hate on your partner (with you) for doing the dispeakable for cheating on you, funny and oh so cute how they dont ever get over it long after you have and will remind you about that episode, even though they themselves have done it to another man/woman by sleeping with a married person.

As a woman I have always wanted to be perceived as the pure one, the one who does not cheat, the one who does not even look at other men. I even cheat myself into believing all the above is true, in our hearts of hearts we women believe we do not cheat even when we have. I am a cheater, I cheat by the sloppy work I sometimes produce to my superviser at work, I cheat by smilling back at the cute guy who winked at me at the robots, I cheat by flirting my way out of uncomfortable situations like that traffic fine ;-). I cheat by telling a friend that its not as bad as it seems when it actually is just so the conversation can be cut short, I cheat by talking for a bit too long with an ex when I know my husband will be angry to hear or see me doing that. I cheat in many other means and ways , whenever convenient; for whatever reason I need to cheat for. Truth is so much blame is put on men about being cheaters, but that is only because they are not good cheaters and because they are not good liars, they always get caught. Many of my single girlfriends and too many married ones have confessed to cheating - and all it says is that we are all made the same; we are ALL not perfect, infact we need to fall in love with that one person all the time, over and over again to avoid cheating on them. A lot of people I know believe its ok to cheat because they are single; that its only when you are married that it becomes a big NO NO. Truth is CHEATING IS CHEATING whether you have a bling ring on your finger or you are still looking for a husband or wife. And you can be sure as daylight that you will most likely cheat when married if you cheat while single - all that will change are the excuses you will make up to comfort yourself for doing it. As humans we need variety in our relationships so that it does not get boring and tempt us to cheat... After 7 days on the treadmill I need variety, I am getting bored - and since I am human and therefore not perfect - occassionally I am tempted to cheat.